Another painful aspect of society is this:

For any boy and girl, after marriage, their top priority is to attain the blessing of children. But it is observed that even before the color of the bride's henna has faded, the grandmothers and elderly women of the entire neighborhood gather and say to the girl, "Daughter-in-law, when are you giving us the good news?"

As if the good news is something the daughter-in-law brought along with her in her dowry, and giving this good news is entirely within her control.

And for couples whose marriage has crossed a period of three to four years, people say, "Give the good news now at least!" But have we ever thought about how these sentences of ours cut through that girl's heart like a saw, and how much mental stress she must be suffering from?

The sentences we speak are not merely sentences; they are clubs of words through which we murder that girl's desires. Who knows how many consolations that girl must have given herself, and what efforts she must have made to distract her mind.

But our single question, which is asked just for casual gossip, causes so much agony and pain to that girl that ordinary people cannot even imagine it.

It is this very pressure due to which girls go to fake faith healers, where they not only waste their money but sometimes also lose their honor.

I implore my mothers and sisters to be careful in saying anything, and act upon "weigh your words before you speak". This is not the time to indulge in gossip.

This is the time to increase their hope, to encourage them, and to strengthen their faith in the existence of Allah. God forbid, if tomorrow the same situation arises with our own sister or daughter, where will we go?

Therefore, all of us should choose our words very thoughtfully so that no one's feelings are hurt and they do not become victims of mental stress. Encourage people and treat them with sympathy and love.

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Double Standards in Marriage Proposals: The Painful Reality of the "Rishta" Culture

Double Standards in Marriage Proposals: The Painful Reality of the "Rishta" Culture

In our society, when looking for a marriage proposal for a son or a brother... The girl's beauty, her innocence, her domestic skills, her lifestyle, her education, her family background, her dowry, her share in the property, and her entire history from birth to youth—with verification—become mandatory conditions. On the other hand, for the boy, merely having a job is considered more than enough. Neither his looks, nor his character, nor his behavior, nor his circle of friends, nor his relationship with his family, nor his past affairs matter; just one job covers up a hundred of his flaws. And the biggest tragedy is that when people go to visit someone's daughter or sister's house, they send a message beforehand saying they are coming to "see the girl." Imagine what the girl goes through at that moment! Dying a thousand deaths inside her heart and mind, desperately praying, overthinking, and driven nearly crazy with anxiety... "What will happen? Will I be liked or not? If I am not liked, what will people say? Even if I am liked, what kind of people are they? What will the boy be like?" A thousand such questions cross her mind. To top off this ignorance, those people invite other women from their family, and the girl is asked to walk a few steps in front of everyone. It is just like inspecting sheep and goats in a cattle market by making them walk a few steps to see if they are a good fit. They go and inspect her room, eat and drink at her house, and upon returning to their own home, they casually drop a message: "Sorry, we didn't like the girl!!" People like this should be thrown into a boiling cauldron of oil! O oppressors!!! Do not agree to the proposal ten times over if you don't want to, but you can always visit the girl's house under some other pretext first. Do not officially bring up marriage until you are sure you like her. She is a girl, not an angel! Not a fairy! She is a simple, innocent human being who has emotions, dreams, and self-respect. For God's sake, do look for fairies for your "moon-like" sons, but not by finding faults in someone else's sister or daughter, not by earning their sighs of grief, and not by inviting their curses! ___________📝📝📝___________ Narrated. Selection: Islamic Tube App